In Fear & In Love

Fear is a consequence of Faith in Love that goes astray. It is not found in the absence of Love, but rather fear restructures ways in which we are able to perceive and practice Loving Intention. Love is an All encompassing, Unifying, Awe-Inspiring, unadulterated, Creative energetic signature of an Ancient Divine that transmits and permeates All time and existence - Humans included!

The True Presence of Being accepts Love: Love for ourselves, Love for others and Love for Life. It Unites All That Is. We came here to Love.

We came here to Love.

As part of Human design, we are intimate with ego; regarding identity and familiarity through its own lens. Ego takes precedence of fear - it seeks to protect us at all costs, by installing margins pertaining to our generosity, reciprocity, reaction to, and retraction of Love.

These boundaries are classified through historical and Present circumstance; learned behaviours; reflex responses; conditioning and intrinsic delineation. These imagined and embodied standards are consequential of reinforced context.

I do not like to believe we ever Truly fall out of Love, but instead a mutation occurs when we fall under the presence of Fear. These fears are based on investments of the Heart that have been, or are projected to become mislaid, mistreated or misused. And this is revealed in the ways to which we treat the energy of Love.

Love has been observed and experienced as a capitalist device many, many times. How Love gets treated as a commodity! Love is translated as a transaction; of investment, bargaining, withdrawal, bribery, taxation, embezzlement and penalisation under certain verbal and non-verbal contractual obligations of ego, i.e. If I invest something in you, you offer something in return; or you give everything and receive nothing back and are short-changed; or maybe that we didn’t receive the goods we expected!

Understandably, these are not healthful directives by which Divine Love operates.

You see, if we draw expectation, clinging, protection or projection from ego towards the initial deposit of our Heart investment, we set ourselves up for non-refundable disappointment and disillusionment.

As an alternative means to approach, when we welcome and harness Assets of Divine Love, our own energy expands and uplifts alongside it. We sense an integration and alignment to the Truth of our Feeling State, and the power of all fear has potential to become eroded.

Humans chase familiar feelings of Love by thoughts and acts that revive it. Oftentimes, it is sought in ways prompted by ego and its methods of accounting.

Accountability in relationships is a multi-faceted dimension where circumstances and people are often split by negative return; especially if belief is based on unequal levels of investment measured between parties.

We may find that what is required is willingness to accept limitations of our own and other’s conjecture within the framing of Love.

If ambition is only to seek Love and Adoration (and not reciprocate it to the best of our capabilities, nor offer Gratitude in receipt), we act from desperation as we inquire for validation. Fear is tricking us into patterns and behaviours that may not work to anyone's best interests. Ego alludes us into thinking Love is limited and something to be tangibly grasped at and clung to. This is false belief.

Love is a connecting operator channeling through a continuous current that requires release, not containment. Love is to Surrender; not grasp, or seek control of it. We must arrive with it; acknowledge and admire it; learn from it; and then release it positively from containment knowing it Will return.

Remember, Love is limitless; we Humans are not. We All have Love conditions that desire to be met. However, those Love conditions can be confirmed with endeavour to reinforce internal relationships equal to external ones.

Love in its purest, most genuine and transient form, is constant. It has no demands. It has no expectations. It has no bias. It does not cling. It does not condemn. It is willing and open. It offers Comfort, Support and Guidance. It amplifies beyond measure. It sees Beauty in Everything that Is.

Being in flux, Love changes shape and form depending on the energy it is drawn into.

When Love is chased under the scope of human ego, it can become distilled and diluted by the conscious and subconscious Will.

Our experience and stories colour the ways we understand and manipulate these expressions of Love. Therein, Love becomes subject to modification in accordance to background, desires and attachments ego and Dharma demand from; to prove safeguarding, conduct and faithful reciprocity.

I am somber to find that we All live with broken Hearts; grief-stricken and carrying unresolved Love. We came here to Love, and pain is the consequence?! Pain can be seen as egoistic subjection and attachment, but is also an emotional response that needs cradling in order to come to terms with.

Where does Love go, when circumstances or relationships change? Does navigation of emotional direction alter?

Perhaps, you light up in Gratitude and adoration for All experiences that came through Love. What a Blessing to be Gifted with!

Or maybe, ego resolves to never let you hurt again with sorrow tucked inside tiny pockets of the Heart; better buried than to be withstood. Perhaps the mind informs our (emotional) Heart to cease operations as an act of damage-limitation, so that we become preoccupied instead by logic and reason, reducing the element of Intuition and Emotion that the Heart (the gateway to Love) Gifts us with. Thus, by being torn between head and Heart, we reduce overall experiences betwixt Heartache and the expansive surge of Divine Love.

This climate of dissonance often arises when we meet with challenge to hardwired inner belief structures.

There is an apt saying that rings with Truth here: ‘Better to have Loved and Lost, than to have never Loved at all.’

Grief is a consequence of Love that has become lost. Grief surfaces in the space where Love once occupied and where the source of its Creation has no direction to go towards.

The burdens of grief can be carried with merciless heavy aches, sorrow, disappointment, disengagement, an awareness of death (in its many forms) and is plagued by countless unanswered questions. Our projections and expectations towards whatever, or whoever we had attachment to, comes to an unpleasant and sharp halt, and we are stranded in vacuum and shock.

When we are struck by grief, we may shut down our capacity to stay open to Love; simply for protective measures against further abandonment.

Yet, the cessation of circumstances, or relationships are reminders that there is a continuous flow of energy and we are to become liberated when learning to release our static state; adjusting our sails along prevailing winds and changing tides. This is not straightforward. We do not unaffectedly stop loving the cause of our loss, nor wish to dishonour or disrespect memories of them, but what we can be offered instead, is to grow around our grief rather than accept complete debilitation - eventually alchemising our experiences of Love.

The processing of grief must be a Patient, gentle and Loving progression - a rhythm that cannot be rushed. The head needs considerate time to adjust to new ways of Being, and the emotions that appear need attending to. This is made far more comfortable a transition with a Heart open and willing to Divine and Communal guidance and support; where every emotional expression through tears to laughter are received and accepted.

Love has power to transform us over the course of time, despite our egoistic responses of how we give and receive in the status of Love.

Greatness in this Life emerges with a willingness to ebb and flow in the midst of whatever derives from Love and to allow whatever arises to rejuvenate and renew our Soul, Spirit and Faith. Whether that happens via adversity, or through assurance, we are rendered opportunity to learn and grow in how we choose to relate our unique version of Love; with Tolerance and Courage as our companions.

Models of Inspirational Loving contemplation are framed in vast Historical and Religious scriptures and practices; such as prayer, ritual and ceremony, and legions of Art; such as literature, staged productions, dance, artistic compositions and music. Love is also conveyed in architecture, everyday articles of design, in the conservation of our Sacred Mother, and pretty much anywhere that HumanKind have implemented considerate deliberation and active response to Loving Inspiration!

Interpretations of Love leave a clear blueprint in the physical world, but an observance of social interaction and exchange between Beings is where Loving energy is most Present. Yet, touchstones more readily applicable to our own individual relations are based with family; friends; romantic connections; and Love for All (Agape Love).

To trial the embodiment of Love, we can listen to, and learn from what it means to Truly Love, of and by, ourselves. The absolute guide to fully appreciate how Love fulfils is to be guided by Self-Love. This does not mean becoming engrossed in the self, or inflating one’s sense of importance. Quite the contrary! It means devoting time and space to Be-ing, not doing. This process allows for dreams and ambitions of the Soul to resurface; reignited, revived and restored. There is a point in the labelling of 'Human Being,' i.e. not constant human doing!

Whether in a state of agitation, frustration, gratification, analysis, or being conquered by tentative influence, when we listen in to musings of the mind as it presents to us, there is ample scope to step back from its function (doing) in conduction of its orchestration.

Interrupting the mind process - noticing when we are reacting to stimulation - is a first step towards freedom from doing. We are accustomed in taking pursuit to instruction from our over-energised minds, but we can simply decide to witness rather than be servant to it. Over the course of time this process embeds new neural pathways in the brain; intrinsically informing reformation of our character and nature.

The people and world around us act as reflections to that which can transpire within ourselves and themselves. People meet us where they are at, more often than where we are at. This does not divorce us from one another; rather it reflects our vibratory energy in motion (E-motion) at any given moment in time.

To acquire mutual understanding relies upon Honesty and Clarity about our transitionary states of feeling, which also calls in Hope and Courage.

Courage depends on a willingness to acknowledge, accept and/or adapt conditions to which we hold our own and others expectations to account. This approach may increase chances of confrontation and challenge - both internal and external, but Clarity and Truth are laid bare in Hope to be met in Understanding.

We may retreat from confrontation, or challenge, further reducing the Element of emotion and Intuition (Heart), thus withholding old, outgrown narrative, and habitual and behavioural patterns that dwell amidst our egoistic constitutions.

If we bring awareness to our reflexes, we are empowered with fresh choice to interrupt them. Then, over time our perception changes and Compassionate Living becomes second nature. We could move away from stagnant beliefs and replace them with Loving Awareness that has the power to shine upon effect and causality surrounding our Relational Being. We are empowered to grow in Awareness around the ways in which we approach acceptable and unacceptable treatment of ourselves and others.

Authentic Growth can be found in our relational ways:

For example; How is your inner- and outer-talk when confronted with relational conflict?

Do you go to dilemma, rumination or avoidance?

Do you put strategies in place to find resolution?

Maybe, you are triggered by past trauma and take on an attack or defence strategy.

Perhaps, you draw on presumption, projection, or expectation.

Do you use blame, shame, condemnation, or guilt-based processes to justify?

These ingrained and reinforced states have likely been governed through our neural wiring over time (most typically from educational, political, social or religious inculcations designed to regulate fluctuations in Human nature), and possibly served us at some point or another, but are perhaps far less helpful and effective now.

We need not chastise or dissolve ego (nor the cause of our shaped view of the world) for they are an intrinsic and important aspect of Human Being.

Shadows of our psyche often reveal during an eclipse of the Soul; for recognition, re-calibration, Transmutation and potential of Healing - if we hold Willing and Faithful in coming to terms with, and then processing these shadows for release or acceptance.

Positive relationships are often formed where each individual accepts and adapts their own agency of self-regulation; modulates a healthy boundary that supports willingness and consent to work on personal misgivings and oversights, as much as extending on positive attributes and Gifts. In turn, these transpire in relation to one another: modelling and sharing qualities such as; Respect, a sense of Unity, Compassion, Growth, Honesty, Forgiveness, Loyal Companionship, Support, Trust, Peace, Comfort and Joy - all genuine expressions of healthful Love.

As mentioned previously, ego mind is responsible for captivating fear. When we only serve our ego and its demands, we are forcefully coerced by its fears. We enter into a blind-sided settlement that invests heavily in an illusion of separation.

Unhealthy relationships cross boundaries formed through insecure fear-based attachments, and utilise tactics of threat and violence, tyranny, greed, dishonesty, confusion, unpredictability and instability.

An abusive relationship is often hooked into detrimental emergent patterns chartered by egoistic realms; demonstrating a reliance upon co-dependent relational strategies between ‘victim’ and ‘saboteur’.

The saboteur entices and induces the victim, grappling for undivided attention; gratifying needs of dominance; or seeking to destroy or control qualities they themselves are resentful of. They are often unwilling, or unable to distinguish their rejections as something they internally possess, but often deny for all number of reasons.

The ‘victim’ is placed to respond to these restless and unpredictable states, in roles of rescuer and soothing regulator; tolerating, appeasing and pleasing wherever they possibly can to avoid affronting the violent agitations within the oppressor, and within themselves. The victim is sometimes rewarded for compliance, or punished for defiance of the anticipated role that they play.

Resentment and frustrations may build - feeding into confusion where needs are not being met - but manipulation tactics permit overstepping of boundaries where messages of Love continuously become spent; exhausted by the fluctuations of volatile directive.

An over-willingness to please; not being defined in boundaries; or miscalculating the extent to which Love forgives, tolerates and excuses, are all learned behaviours that can easily be taken advantage of.

At the opposing end of this scale may be demonstrations of a grandiose sense of superiority; where an imbalance between need for veneration confronts generated reasons to act indifferently and treat others with debasement and humiliation; or demands of validation - commanding that to be feared and respected regardless of attitude and treatment of others is plausible and acceptable.

Ego mind acts as a shield, disconnecting from the Truth of a situation. There are typically deep-rooted anchors to these behaviours and their pursuing actions can be troublesome to conceive, let alone perceive within ourselves and others, but tediously they are inferential to modern society.

These form an extreme example of how Love can become perverse and dominated by egoistic fears that inevitably cause pain and grief.

Both parties grant manipulation to a greater, or lesser extent, and elasticity of boundaries that legitimise our own versions of Love become incompatible, and yet justifiable beyond all manner of healthy self-Love and Loving practices.

However, vilifying another for (mis) interpretations of their Love does not Heal, nor is it wise to cast aspersions from an external perspective. We can never chart the absolute Truth of stories another identifies by, nor the level of Karma and Dharma another is dealing with. We can outline predominant definitions, but these only usher interpretation towards suspicion and incomplete Truth.

In this scenario, both abuser and abused could be perceived as equal part victim to equal part saboteur. However, there is preference to remove antagonistic labels all together. It is possible that neither party have the advantage, preparation, or knowledge of how to characterise Divine Love in its pure form, and rely on these circumstances for familiarisation.

Kind reintroduction to the True Tolerances of Love may be needed. After all, common ground wages Love, and not war.

We could be forgiven for believing that Love is Love in All shapes and forms.

Nevertheless, Love compels the Heart through expansion and Fear manipulates translations of Love by contraction. And where harm is apparent, the need for rectification or extraction is Carefully advised.

There are fine connotations to be made where manipulation is concerned.

A newborn’s first cry is an impulsive shock. It is an announcement that connects their sound and Soul vibration into the Ether. They have arrived here on Earth and have needs that must be met!

If these needs are not attended to promptly by a care-giver, or if disregard for needs are continuous, the infant brain releases cortisol (a stress hormone) which can affect neural wiring that develops self-protective behavioural patterns influencing their emotional attachment style and ability to Trust.

This could be viewed as the first instance of relational manipulation, but also highlights how fragile our emotional states become when not handled with full Presence and Care.

This form of manipulation is not to be framed as something pernicious, as we are Created to voice our needs when helpless and vulnerable! It simply holds testament to ways in which Humans are designed to reach for social proficiency. And it is Love that brings attention and attendance to our emotional and relational needs.

Our communities are Created to support and guide growth. We form bonds and attachments to those willing to give and receive needs for Loving comfort and survival.

Relationships are key Elements for our Spiritual and Soulful growth into Love. They act as a catalyst for change and yes, change can be painful, but we are reminded that suffering and pain are temporary egoistic reactions. With acceptance and Communal Support, we are bound for Love.

We can diminish the power of fear by Being Faithful to pertinent and healthful Universal Love and by facing our internal shadows with Courage and Compassion that permit conversion towards Healing.

How we approach the inevitability of change could alleviate the extent of suffering to which we feel and experience. Transformation begins when we release egoistic control and replace it with: Trust, Honesty, Discernment, Tender Forgiveness and Compassion of the Heart Centre; which are further strengthened by adopting healthy responses to our internal and external stimuli.

Outside and internalised impressions and interpretations aren’t always absolute Truth, but perspective obtained by each individual possesses a seed of Truth to be delivered. If we feel resistance to suggestion, we may think one is right and the other is wrong. Yet, there is no right, or wrong; only perception of these two conditions. However, there are consequences and observations of harmful doing. Caution from others may need closer introspection, or be heeded to as preventative measures. On times, fear has basis for very real and impending harm.

Engaging with communities surrounding us in a way that welcomes and radiates individual identity, whilst pertaining mindfulness of our part as a collective, exemplifies Unity, Connection and Belonging; and provides transition into a more harmonious way of Being. Community can also bring challenge and Diversity, but these differences can be engaged with and embraced just as readily as the more positive aspects of Sharing a Life together. Misunderstanding and misinterpretation require clear and Kind communication to find resolve.

As Community gathers, a gateway from the Heart grows wider and a greater Consciousness could soon arise. Ultimately, Love is a verb and it is what we do with it that carries value and worth. We re-member to remember.

Courage to exemplify our True Essence - that with Divinity -  opens a portal of Love and whatever flows into awareness is simply observed; reducing attachment formation to any conceivable ways in which Truth can become reduced, detached, condemned or rejected by ego.

And when we are ready, we reintegrate with one another at this very same level; seeing and sensing through Compassion and Humility.

We feel, sense and understand what another is challenged by; as we imagine, or have faced our own similar inner-demons too. We listen through a willing Heart that has our tongue poised in Loving Surrender.

We are social beings by nature; Mother nature herself embodies and reflects the importance of Being fully Present and adaptable to All the Elements with an open mind, Heart and Soul.

Whether met in challenge or praise, the capacity for deeper, more succinct growth within ourselves and one another surfaces in our relationships. Relational Being weaves filaments of Heart-led influence that form this Divine tapestry of Life.

We assert not only our own intention, but Divine Will within and without us. Our Hearts possesses a Sacred Wisdom that unite us as One.

I Pray for Humanity to Be Heartfelt with their Intentions and open in Willingness to the ways we choose to relate Divine Love internally and externally.

In Love, is the term most use to describe how someone else, someplace, or something else makes them feel. They seldom remember this feeling already exists before the external direction takes course.

I use the term In Love to describe All states of Divinely expressed Love. I am moved towards a constant state of Being In Love; with myself; with life; with everyone; everything and every experience. I offer my Heartfelt Gratitude for All that Is.

When it is challenging to Be In Love (I am Human after all!), I honour expressions of Love around and within me to reinforce these Gracious Gifts, and request for Tolerance and Forgiveness to show themselves in.

Oftentimes, I am in complete Awe of the exceptional qualities others embody and emulate; the Beauty of our Sacred Mother Earth and All her babies; our Universe; Energies; and of course, Great Spirit.

I remain inspired by The Divine in All.

We are All here expressing Divine Love - whether redirected towards something external, or internal. It is a Gift of Being; A Gift of Presence.

If we arrive in a space of Being Love, we emulate from the Heart (Centre of Being); overflowing with limitlessness of Divine Intention and Intervention.

The mind fervently chases what The Heart already Patiently Understands. Listen closely...

Fear will contract us, yet Love will expand.

All is Love.

Ometeotl